It is not a secret that some men are INTIMIDATED by women!
Let us look at how girls are brought up!
We live in a society where there are stereotypes and gender issues, and believe it or not these may lead to women abuse…
Eastern Cape is one of the provinces where women are brought up differently. We are raised to be wife material,good cooks and dishwashers. Seriously,I am starting to believe that people think women were born with a cooking gene! this is funny because you will notice that the MAJORITY of chefs in restaurants like, Mc’ Donald’s , Spur ..etc, are men! so,how does this work exactly? How come our parents see it as essential for us girls to learn how to cook,do laundry and wash dishes?.Is any of this fair?...I believe it is not ,because I believe that women are and should be treated as potential intellectual equals and social equals to men.
This should be a “Let’s take turns” task.
At home,I would sometimes hear Dad ask, “Do I have to do the ironing myself,aren’t there girls in this house?” and I would look at him and think,why can’t his question be something like…”Do I have to do the ironing myself,Aren’t there children in this house? ..at least I would have a better understanding.
But,who am I to question all these things?.In our parents eyes it’s disrespectful to ask such…
East London has so many taxi ranks and not a single day have I seen a woman driving a taxi!
See what I mean ?
Where I am really driving at is the fact that we cannot deny that a waiter or a waitress does not treat men and women the same,that a car guard would expect more money from men than women.
https://www.google.co.za/search?q=feminists+in+south+africa&rlz=1C1CHWA_enZA664ZA664&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=643&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAWoVChMI8KvDuYycyQIVQkQUCh0ldABc#tbm=isch&q=feminists+images
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says in one of her quotes "We raise girls to cater to the fragile egos of men, We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We tell girls 'you should have ambition,but not too much.You should aim to be successful,but not too successful,otherwise you will threaten the man..."
Here's a video of her getting into details about how girls are brought up !
I hope we all beat patriarchy !
Gone are the days where women only belonged in the kitchen, you are never a man without a woman. you strike a woman you strike a rock.
ReplyDeleteOkay sweety I hear you...but I'm pretty sure that you would not like it or understand it either if your dad said "Do I have to cut the grass myself in this yard?...200 bucks says you'd look at your dad as if he' crazy...
ReplyDeleteNot at all,if the grass needs to be cut then I will be honoured to do so... feminists would understand !
ReplyDeleteOkay but i don't believe you..Now lets say the roof is leaking and its raining cats and dogs outside, now tell me...would you ask your dad to not fix it and do yourself??...I'm just tryin to be realistic here, I'm not sayin there should be no equality but I certainly think it applies in certain areas or things.
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ReplyDelete@aseza woman were created to do what man can't do, so its pointless for woman to try what man can do like driving taxi and fixing roof.
ReplyDelete@Ian.. For the record there is nothing women can't do that men can,we just can't do it the same way hence we not physically equal. The girl is a feminist right,so she says women should be treated the same way man do and I quote "At home I would sometimes hear dad ask, "Do I have to do the ironing myself,aren't there girls in this house? Unquote...which means she doesn't understand why her dad would say something like that...Now dont you think that even men were created to do just the same...
ReplyDelete@Ian.. For the record there is nothing women can't do that men can,we just can't do it the same way hence we not physically equal. The girl is a feminist right,so she says women should be treated the same way man do and I quote "At home I would sometimes hear dad ask, "Do I have to do the ironing myself,aren't there girls in this house? Unquote...which means she doesn't understand why her dad would say something like that...Now dont you think that even men were created to do just the same...
ReplyDelete@Aseza.. I understand you, the thing is I think there is no right answer to this. I wouldn't want woman to do hard labor. And I wouldn't want my dad even if he is a chef to cook at home.
ReplyDeleteBut I would want my mom to have a deciding vote at home. I'm of opinion that woman are mentally stronger than man or equal to man, If given an opportunity like man.
If we look closely girls dominate the student representative council at high school level and yet in real world we have less woman in leadership positions...
Profound @Ian..Thank you !
ReplyDeleteWoman today are hustlers they make things happen, they manage their careers while raising a family, they are strong and focused so they definetly shouldnt be treated anyless.
ReplyDeleteI believe that if we had a female leader in our county, things would be handled differently and i mean that life would be a little more easier than it is now.
ReplyDeleteThank you, that was a very insipiring insert.
the only way into a man's heart is by cooking good food,hence every woman must be an excellent cook in order to keep the fires of love burning at home.
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